EPISODE 31 - BDSM THROUGH AN IFS LENS, WITH LEONORE TJIA

Patty sits down with Leonore Tjia, a therapist, coach, and kink educator, for a conversation about what happens when the frameworks of Internal Family Systems and BDSM meet. For those new to the world of kink, Leonore offers a clear  introduction — unpacking the difference between power exchange and sensation play, and explaining why the BDSM community’s emphasis on consent, negotiation, and aftercare brings a level of intentionality that is often missing from so-called “normal” sexuality.

EPISODE 30 - SEXORCISM: IFS AND UNATTACHED BURDENS, WITH ROBERT FALCONER

Robert Falconer is well-known in the IFS community for his teachings about “the others within us,” including unattached burdens and guides.In this episode, Patty and Bob explore how sexual trauma can create openings in the psyche that allow these external energies in, and how working with the parts that have organized themselves around those energies — not rushing to get rid of them — is often where the most tender and transformative healing lives. Bob shares from his own autobiography of severe childhood sexual abuse, and speaks to why he believes IFS is the most powerful model available today for survivors.

EPISODE 16 - TALKING ABOUT SEX WITH IFS FOUNDER DR.RICHARD SCHWARTZ

In this episode of the Self-led in Bed podcast, Patricia welcomes Richard Schwartz, the founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), to discuss how IFS can be a transformative tool for navigating the complexities of sexuality, healing trauma, and fostering Self-led intimacy. The conversation explores how IFS helps individuals understand and work with their sexual parts, addressing both personal and relational dilemmas, from everyday sexual challenges to profound wounds caused by abuse.

EPISODE 1 - DISCOVERING THE POWER OF IFS, WITH TAMMY SOLLENBERGER

In this episode, I talked with Certified IFS Consultant, author and IFS podcaster extraordinaire, Tammy Sollenberger, about how we discovered Internal Family Systems, the transformative power of self-compassion, and how to apply IFS principles in our daily and sexual lives. Tammy shares personal stories and her clear understanding of the model in ways that I am sure will engage you and awaken your curiosity.

Patty is a Certified IFS Therapist and Consultant, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor, Speaker, Trainer, Author and Guide. She has developed a unique integrative model for Self-Led Sexuality to help people find more ease, joy, and confidence in the bedroom and beyond. She has originated IFS-informed concepts such as Internal Consent and The Six S’s of Sexual Self-Energy, taught a module for the IFS Institute Online Continuity program, led workshops internationally, and authored a chapter in Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities and Trends. She offers training and consultation to professionals and loves helping people to BeHold and Lead their Internal Sexual Systems (BLISS)™. You can get her free guide to The Six S’s of Sexual Self Energy and learn more about her offerings here on her website or follow her on her social media accounts.